Call her, ask her out, do the usual things men are supposed to do. But what you shouldn’t do is follow every status update of hers and let her know of it during course of conversation! Following every status is something a teenager would do and reiterating her updates to her is something a stupid teenager would do.
1. Status Stalking
This is one of the most childish, juvenile ways to try and win her over. So, you got her number, and now use it productively. Call her, ask her out, do the usual things men are supposed to do. But what you shouldn’t do is follow every status update of hers and let her know of it during course of conversation! Following every status is something a teenager would do and reiterating her updates to her is something a stupid teenager would do. Besides, if you’re following ever status of hers, God knows where you’ll stop and let me tell you that this leads to serious stalker potential.
2. She says, “No”; You Hear Yes
Women are beautiful and they are strange. And if for some strange reason she says that you two are better of being friends, take that cue and follow. If you pester her in spite of her disinterest and try and convince her that you two are meant to be together, etc., it’s desperate and very stalker-like. No woman like a desperate man and no man likes a desperate brother. I’d like to say that we feel for you, but if you’re one of these, it’s time to grow a pair and move one.
3. Emotional Blackmail
This kind of behaviour is best left to the women who spend their time watching intelligence-insulting Indian soaps. If you resort to emotional blackmail, you are a man no more, my friend. And if you do resort to this, please note that a stalker tries everything in his power, including threats and emotional blackmail, to coerce the woman into seeing his point of view. We’re assuming that you’re not this character and never will be. Leave the EMO to the television, please.
4. But You Said…
Times change, people change, situations change, feelings change – this is life, suck it up. If she tells you she has changed or goes down the path of change, do not go into the “but you said” bit. Yes, all of us say things; such is life. If you really want her to see your side, try and help her understand what YOU feel, do not remind her about what she said. If a woman is willing to walk away, remember that the only way she’ll consider changing her mind is if you tell her your side about why she should stay. The moment you remind her of what she said, you’re going to see her back… and not in the way you like it.